As a parent we have to know and need to help them to grow
up. So if we know some basics then it will help us lot.
1 Self
confidence
Every kid tries to follow their parents. Most of the kids
will answer “want to be like Mama or Dad’’ if you ask them, what you will do in
your life? Kids gather the experience of life thru their parent’s behavior.
Your kid will follow every steps of your walk along with you style of talking,
your expressions and thinking. So their self-confidence will depend on your
acts and words.
Your positive language and praising activities will
create an atmosphere where your kids can feel better and solid. Please try to
avoid comparing one child with other one. Because every child has difference
and psychology never be same. Comparison will create misperception and negative
sentiment about people, works mostly on them self.
Never say, you are fool or you are not good as x. It will
affect those most. We can counsel with them, it’s just a mistake and next time
we will try more to avoid this kind of mistake. Express your love and feeling,
even they do something wrong.
2 Act
like friend not like boss
They are only kids! They have the right to do mistakes
and naughty works. If we behave like boss and the entire time try to say don’t
do it. Is it right? Just try to follow their activities, and speak loudly or
give them hug and kiss when they do something really good. Repeat the good jobs
more than bad jobs. Your encouragement will make them happy and lively.
3 Discipline,
never beyond the limit.
If we want to create our children to be a good citizen,
we have to maintain disciplines and rules at home. Kids should be aware of do some thing or they
should be know the basics. Like, we can’t use slang or bad words to anyone. We
have to maintain some rules strictly. Like before ending the home work they can’t
watch TV. Or have to respects older one of the family. We have to be careful
about the consequence of the rules and activities. It’s a continuous role. We
never can think, oh we have informed them that’s enough. We have to remembering
them time to time about the rule of the family. It will create some dos and
don’ts on their mind and help them to choose the right way.
4 Quality
time for the kids
Now a day, it’s a huge issue in our daily life. Mostly we
both Mama and Dad are working. For that reason we have little time for our kids
and family. On the other hand whole day we have to work so much and face the
pressure, when we reached home, we feel tired and exhausted. But our kids need us mostly that time.
We can change some of our daily procedures to make sure
to provide the quality time to our kids. We can wake up 15 minutes early and
taking the breakfast together. Like after dinner, we can take a small walk to
make them happy. In every week, we need to go for outing with members for
having on time with own people.
Give them chance to decide, what are they want to do on
the weekend? It will give kids, new
thoughts and they feel much attached with us. Try to give them time when you
are in kitchen or reading the newspaper, make some participatory function to
involve them with you. Or you can take them with for grocery shopping.
5 Loves
without Condition
We have to remember that, we are not having our child to
find out their mistakes rather than provide them guidance and show the way.
Love shouldn’t have any condition. It’s always out of give and take policy. We
have to express our love while they did mistakes. We have to realize they are
learning from us. If we continuously tell them about their faults, their
morality will be down. So we have to tell them, we can’t do same mistakes again
and again. Next time we will do better. Just boost up their confidence and give
them the support.
6 Try
to be Hero
We mentioned before that every kid want to be like their
parents. Every boy have a dream, once upon a time, he will be as like his
father, same to the girls. They will follow how you behave? How you speak? How
you treat others? What other people say about you? How you eat? How you feel about
country, people, and society? Show your honesty, respects, high morality, love
for others and they will treat you their Hero and follow you. Your smiling face
will teach you to smile.
7 Think
about you
No one can be totally perfect as a human being. All of us
have some shortfall or limitations. We have to express our weakness and strength
to our family members. It will make them clear about your ability as parents. The
main power of us, we love our family and trying to do every good thing for our
family. So this is the only and last positive thing for us.
We can’t change our ability or basic in a single day but
we can try to do better day by day. And our love with guidance can make our
kids to be a real hearted good person.
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